Service

Service is a great thing that for most is just a natural thing. Some have the will to want to do anything for anyone as long they are helping and doing something for someone other than themselves,and aren’t expecting something in return. I think the mean of service is having the ability to know that there are people that appreciate the help and would willing to accept that.  Also service is just willing to help that person or place in need, giving them your time and compassion. “Give your hands to serve and your hearts to love.” Mother Teresa

Almost everyday in some way or another you are doing some type of service and sometimes you don’t even realize until you get a feeling of relief or of accomplishment. Doing some type of service in a way is a great way to relieve stress in some, because some just need to find someone or something else to do to get away from old ways that aren’t helping. Also it could help habit the you want to get rid of. For example if you are a very self-centered and care about nothing but your own well being. Volunteering at a nursing home or a place like the CP  Center would help you realize what you need to change within yourself. I not done much for volunteering due to not having much room in my schedule, but I hope to more to learn more about the different service things someone can do. The only service have done would consist of helping an elementary teacher, it was a great experience to learn about how younger children interact with others, also i was more of a “second hand” to help because some teachers have a lot of things that need to be done throughout the day. It made me feel great when she would ask if I was coming again the week after. Other than that I have just done the basic services of helping open doors for people when they need it,

I hope to more for people and place because it make you feel good when someone compliments you and tells someone another “that young lady is a sweetheart” and thanks you. If you do some type of service for someone else, the almost everytime give service back. For example, opening a door for an elderly man/woman, most likely if they see you again they would maybe help you in return.  I have done that multiple times, helping elderly by opening doors for them or helping them if they need something they know they will struggle with. I’d rather me struggle doing something then them. Service is a great thing to do for someone  because it could brighten someone’s day especially not knowing anything about them, they could have been through things you could imagine. “ We making a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.” Winston Churchill

Vision

Vision

We can see a short distance ahead, but we can see plenty there that needs to be done.~Alan Turing

All people have characteristics that they feel describe them entirely. Generally found to be a very outgoing, loving to talk and to have some kind of communication with someone at all times. Everyone has things they feel resemble them, but some also have things that make someone know that, that is not the person they want to be. Some realize they need to change, but not change themselves physically, but mentally. Everyone even if they don’t know it they have some kind of vision just some have to go a little deeper to fully know theirs.

Vision is something that everyone should have, some people think of the way they should have been, instead of thinking of the way they can be now. This is one thing that shouldn’t be thought of in a negative way. Put the past behind, anyone can change their vision. Don’t think of what you could have done, think of what you can do. I think of vision as a way of knowing who you can be. Everyone wants something, but it’s the will of wanting to make that change into who you know you can be.

I know that I am how I am suppose to be but some of the things I have done, is not the kind of person I want to be. I want to be someone that be looked up to for the good things I have done, but not discriminated for the wrong. To be someone that will believe in more than just me and be more open minded toward the people I have known to trust, not be self-centered. To continue you to keep trying to become the person I know I can be. “The power of imagination created the illusion that my vision went much farther than the naked eye could actually see.”(Nelson Mandela) He followed his vision knowing that he knew what changes needed to be done mentally and physically, and he did the visions. Determination is a key, I believe, to conquering your vision and making it happen.

“First we make our habits, and then our habits make us.” (John Dryden) To make yourself the person you know you can be and want to be you have to change the habits that do not benefit you or make you think differently about yourself and others. Most habits become a person’s “addiction” in a positive and a negative ways. You have to change the ways you know are making you that person you don’t wanna be. “Bad” habits are found to be a person’s (physical and mental ) lack of self control. Some just don’t have the capability but they just have to work for it.

Honesty.

HONESTY

Honesty I believe is a branch off of the idea of trust and truth. With honesty comes truth, “The greatest advantage of speaking the truth is that you don’t have to remember what you said.” Honesty is more than being truthful, it’s believing you can do what you know you can do instead of being dishonest and saying you can’t.  The idea of honesty toward yourself is knowing that you can be independent, and taking the responsibility when you know that you did something that is only going to penalize you, because if you’re honest to others and not only yourself you may get a outcome that you didn’t expect  and not lying.  Some just exaggerate and think that they’re always going to have a negative outcome, and that’s not being honest yourself.

“Of all animals, man is the only one that lies.”(Mark Twain) Which is true, we are the only single species that lie.  Honesty is  not only what you say it is what you do. Honesty is a way to pay your own way. In many ways people are not honest enough, which leads to doubt. Doubt then leads to other problems. The best thing to keep your well-being a good one is to just be honest mainly with yourself. In life there are going to be times that someone may not be honest to you. But that’s life. some things we just have to put behind us. Which may lead some in the right direction on the idea of honesty.

Losing trust in yourself is the easiest way to lose honesty in yourself. If you lose it in yourself, it is harder for others to stand behind you and help if you need it, but you have to be honest.  It’s another easy way to deal with the problems you know you want to just go away. Lying gets you nowhere in life, “Some liars are so expert they deceive themselves.”( Austin O’Malley) We just need to understand that being unhonest ourselves is what makes us do the things we do and tend to regret. And the only way around that is by in the end Be Honest, physically, mentally and emotionally.

Work.

“A dream doesn’t become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work.” (Colin Powell) That is the issue that as individual I have, believing that everything should just be easy and in a sense handed out to me. It’s not that easy. It takes work to get the things you desire. Work is not only what you mentally do, it’s also in my opinion a step(big or little) that someone takes to accomplish or achieve a goal. The only way to achieve that goal is to work on weakness.

Every person has weaknesses. Some just choose not to accept them, I have come to realize where and what my weaknesses are. The failure that I have is that I expect a lot when I do minimum. For example, if I am at work and am told to do someone else's job, I would do an uncomplete job just to get it done, to continue what I was doing before hand. Where I fail, is thinking that someone would be pleased more with it partially done, then having it completely done, which is not true. Not completely doing the job is just as bad as not doing it at all. Which leads to another fault, assuming.  It gets you nowhere, especially when you assume for the wrong reason. Like not listening to someone when told to do or have something, than assuming something that was never said; miscommunication or overthinking things. Sometimes overthinking brings the chance of failure. An example being, not trusting yourself and thinking that you can’t do anything, not being honest to yourself or others around you.

“Build up your weaknesses until they become your strong points(Knute Rockne),” this is true, me as well as it should be for everybody. Everyone has the ability to build their weaknesses, and make them strengths. I think that I need to not depend on the easy way out of thing that I don’t want to do in life. I need to just take responsibility, and do what is asked of me. I have to stop assuming things, and listen to what is fully said, to not have to be so negative about things and think that I can’t do it. I just have to work on the weakness I am aware of and focus on them instead of creating even more weaknesses for myself. I need to find a motivation to want to make a change and it all starts with me.

My Truth

Confidence

One of the biggest issues is that I have a lack of confidence. I have recently noticed that it is one of the main reasons that I get so stressed and I think about things that I should just move on with. The main reason I think I lack confidence is because the one person I had put the most thought into had lost my trust. After coming to my sense that my mom was right that my dad actually didn't want anything to do with me. Honestly he had forgotten who I was. It wasn't until one day that my mom and I had gone into  a gas station that he had happened to be at he was delivering things there. I had noticed him and has smiled, but the most heart wrenching thing was when he didn't no who I was at all. I remember him saying that he didn't even recognize his own daughter. With that being the fact I had kinda just given up. I'm still not completely aware of the reason that he didn't care to be around, but when I used to think about it I figured it was something that I personally did to impact his choice. I am starting to come to the sense that it wasn't me that made him leave. Thinking about that has helped me think that I can be more a of a confident person, and open up to the people that actually do care.  I need to trust myself, knowing that it wasn't my fault and build enough confidence to be able know that I won't let it happen again.I need to build the confidence to move on from the past. I can't change it. It was his choice.